Wednesday, June 03, 2009

Loss of a bright and shining star...

In Memory
Denise Guren
8.14.52 - 5.31.09

This is a would'a, could'a, should'a story, I suppose.

I've known who Denise was for years before I knew her personally - one could easily be in awe of her talent - she was a very gifted violin/fiddle player in both folk and Klezmer music - but I didn't get acquainted with her until I joined Spindrifters a couple of years ago - she was the consummate fiber person - a wonderful spinner (she and her husband designed a new little spinning wheel that is quite popular) and I think she could knit most anything.

Denise had cancer. She faced it with more courage and grace than anyone I've ever seen. She continued to come to our Saturday guild meetings and was also active in the Knit night at NW Handspun Yarns. She and Doug were at Gretchen's Fiber Frolic in April - picking up the first Shetland fleeces from their wethers, that Gretchen had processed for them. She mentioned something about overdying the grey and fawn to see what kind of heathery colors she could come up with.

I sat beside Denise at the last local guild meeting in March. When she mentioned that she had decided to accept Hospice. I didn't know what to say - I didn't know her very well. She quickly said it would make her life easier - that it would allow her to do things in the time she had left that she wouldn't be able to if she didn't have the help. In fact, a friend told me today that she had seen her at Folk Life in Seattle over Memorial Day and at the Farmer's Market last weekend. Denise lived her life to the fullest.

As I said, I didn't know her very well, but I would have liked to have known her better. Afraid of loosing something I had just found, I didn't "find" it at all. I had been thinking about her a lot the last two days, thinking I "should" send her a card to see what she had done with the fleeces that she picked up at Gretchen's - and then, too late, found out this afternoon that she had passed away on Sunday.

Do you suppose there are Klezmer bands in heaven?


Jan's Funny Farm said...

Denise sounds like a wonderful woman and it's a shame you didn't get to know her better. There are always so many things happening in life and we don't want to impose .... There are so many reasons we don't --

But you did know her well enough to see her as a good person and one who lived life to the fullest.

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Franna said...

Sadness and joy. Two sides of the same coin - to experience either one needs the other.

It sounds like you each touched the other's life and were enriched by the experience - and that's what counts.

Thank you for sharing,

Kathy said...

How timely this post about your friend is, Tina. We are facing the fact that a very dear elder friend of ours is battling cancer and it doesn't look too hopeful at this point. Yet, she's facing the prospect of a shorter life with so much courage and dignity. Today she mentioned she will play the cards she's been dealt.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Denise sounded like she was a hoot.

Tracy Klirs said...

I'm Denise's sister, Tracy. I decided to google her name to see what came up and was very touched and moved by your eloquent entry. Thank you for letting us know how Denise impacted your life. She's left a very big hole, but an enormous legacy.